Everything you need to know about the lifestyle, our community, and how to get started.
Swinging, sometimes called "The Lifestyle," involves consenting adults engaging in social and intimate activities with others outside their primary relationship, with their partner's full knowledge and consent.
It's built on a foundation of open communication, mutual respect, and honesty between partners. Many couples find it enhances their relationship by fostering better communication and shared experiences.
People from all walks of life participate – there's no specific demographic. Participants include professionals, business owners, teachers, and everyday people. What unites them is a desire for openness, adventure, and honest communication with their partners.
The only requirements are being a consenting adult (18+) and having an open, honest approach to relationships.
This lifestyle works best for couples who already have a strong, stable relationship built on trust and communication. It should be viewed as an enhancement to an existing healthy relationship, not a solution for relationship problems.
Both partners should be equally interested and enthusiastic. If one partner is reluctant or being pressured, it's not the right choice.
The lifestyle community operates on mutual respect and courtesy. Key principles include:
A simple "No, thank you" is always acceptable and should never require explanation. The community universally respects everyone's right to decline at any time, for any reason.
Don't feel obligated to give reasons – doing so often leads to unnecessary complications. Similarly, if you're declined, accept it gracefully and move on.
Supplied by CherryLounge:
What to bring:
Sleeping Over?
No need to bring bedding! CherryLounge provides proper hotel-quality bedding in rooms for guests who choose to sleep over.
Safety should always be a priority:
Practicing safer intimacy is a personal responsibility. If you or your partner wishes to use protection, that choice should always be respected without question.
Regular health checkups are recommended. The community generally maintains good health practices because of the emphasis on honesty and communication.
Jealousy can occur, especially for newcomers. The key to managing it:
If jealousy becomes a significant issue, take a break and work through it together before continuing.
It's important to remember that the lifestyle is about physical enjoyment, not romantic relationships. Most participants are in committed relationships and are not seeking love elsewhere.
If you find yourself developing romantic feelings, it's important to step back and reassess. Declaring love to someone in the community can complicate situations and damage multiple relationships.
When approached correctly, many couples report that the lifestyle strengthens their relationship through improved communication and shared experiences.
However, it should never be used to fix existing relationship problems. If your relationship is struggling, address those issues first before considering this lifestyle.
Yes, though the experience differs from couples. Single women ("unicorns") are highly sought after and can be very selective. Single men face more competition but can succeed with the right approach.
Key advice for singles:
CherryLounge is an invite-only community. To join:
This approach helps maintain a respectful, genuine community of like-minded individuals.
Classifieds User (Free) - Basic access:
Event User (Free) - Includes everything above, plus:
Full Member (R50/month) - Complete access including:
Visit one of our events to upgrade to Full Member!
Absolutely. Privacy is paramount in our community. We take several measures to protect member information:
We host various events throughout the year for our members. Check the Events page for upcoming gatherings.
Events range from social mixers to themed parties, always in a safe, respectful environment.
Event features:
The Event Wall is a private social space for each event where approved attendees can connect before, during, and after the event:
How to access: Once your RSVP is approved, look for the "Event Wall - Chat with Attendees" button on the event card.
The Event Wall is available to:
This ensures only confirmed guests can participate in the event's social space. All media shared is protected from downloading.
Partner Linking allows couples with separate accounts to connect their profiles:
This is different from registering as a "Couple" - Partner Linking is for two separate accounts that want to be associated.
Surveys allow admins to gather feedback from members on various topics:
Surveys help us understand member preferences for events, features, and community improvements.
The Upcoming Birthdays feature shows members with birthdays in the next 2 months:
Note: Your birthday must be set in your profile to appear in this list. Go to My Profile to add or update your date of birth.
Announcements are important messages from admins displayed at the top of your dashboard:
Announcements help admins communicate important information to the community quickly and effectively.
Global Chat is a community-wide chat room where all members can communicate in real-time:
For private conversations, use the messaging feature instead.
You can delete your account from your Profile page:
This will permanently delete all your data including photos, messages, and posts. A backup is saved so admins can restore your account if you change your mind - contact support for recovery.
CherryLounge offers private rooms that can be rented by the hour for personal use. These are comfortable, discreet spaces available to both members and non-members.
Booking a room is simple:
You'll receive a confirmation email with your booking reference.
You can book rooms up to 30 days in advance. Bookings must be made at least 2 hours before your selected time slot to allow staff time to prepare the room.
If you need to book further in advance for a special occasion, please contact us.
When you proceed to book a room, your selected time slots are reserved for 30 minutes. If payment is not completed within this time:
This ensures fair access to rooms for all customers.
For any changes to your booking, please contact us directly with your booking reference number. Cancellation and refund policies apply:
Contact us as soon as possible if you need to make changes.
We accept secure online payments via PayFast, which supports:
All payments are processed securely through PayFast's encrypted payment gateway.
Yes! Each room has a gallery of images so you can see exactly what to expect:
This allows you to explore each room's features, amenities, and ambiance before making your booking decision.
There are a few reasons why certain time slots may be unavailable:
The system will automatically show you which hours are available and adjust the duration options based on the room's closing time.
We take your privacy seriously. Our Privacy Policy explains how we collect, use, and protect your personal information.
Our Terms of Service outline the rules, guidelines, and your responsibilities as a member of Cherry Lounge. By using our platform, you agree to these terms.
Feel free to reach out to us directly.